Please find below a list of things to stop caring about:
1) What everyone else thinks
That’s it! Stop caring what everyone else thinks. It doesn’t matter! Does your husband think your business idea sucks. Seriously, tell him to go jump, or if you can’t do that, just ignore him. Does your Mum think that your spending too much time on your business and not enough with your children? Yep ignore that too.
Those that say it can’t be done should get out of the way of those doing it” – Chinese Proverb
This is about you, your life is yours and no one else’s. It doesn’t matter if your business idea does or doesn’t suck. It doesn’t matter if no one digs your new purple hairdo. It doesn’t matter if they think your next blog post is ‘good’. You know yourself. Trust yourself. Listen to your gut and learn to change the channel if you don’t like what you are hearing from others. You are in control of the remote.
On the opposite side of the coin, it doesn’t matter if everyone thinks you’re wonderful and perfect. If everyone tells you how well you are doing and how hard you are trying, don’t listen to them. Listen to yourself. It’s likely you’ve forgotten how to listen to yourself. Here’s how you will be forced to start listening to yourself. Stop asking everyone else for their opinions. Now girls I hear you on this one, I am so guilty of this. Actually I had a boyfriend tell me one of my most annoying traits was adding “don’t you think?” onto the ends of sentences. Clearly forever searching for some sort of outside approval. Give yourself the green light.
And to add insult to injury, here’s the kicker. People don’t care as much as you think they do. They just don’t care. They are way too busy worrying what everyone else thinks of them. That person who can see the stain on your shirt…they didn’t notice. That guy who can totally tell you have put on 1.3kg….he doesn’t notice and he doesn’t care.
People are very selfish. They want to know ‘what’s in it for them’. Most of the time while they are listening to you talk they are just trying to work out when would be a good time to interrupt to say what they want to say. So caring about someone’s opinion who hasn’t really listened to you in the first place. Futile.